Friday, February 27, 2009

Parental Alienation: How Common Is It?

From time to time, I come across articles by professionals involved in family custody and juvenile court struggles over the issue of Parental Alienation.

Simply put, parental alienation is...." any behavior by a parent, a child's mother or father, whether conscious or unconscious, that could create alienation in the relationship between a child and the other parent. Parental alienation can be mild and temporary or extreme and ongoing. Most researchers believe that any alienation of a child against (the child's) other parent is harmful to the child and to the target parent. Extreme, obsessive, and ongoing parental alienation can cause terrible psychological damage to children extending well into adulthood. Parental Alienation focuses on the alienating parents behavior as opposed to the alienated parent's and alienated children's conditions." to quote my friend Chrissy.

This morning an article from the UK came across my TwitterFeed on TCOT in California that needed posting. It is important that we recognize that both men and women alienate children from the other parent. It is a gender-neutral illness, but women seem to be singled out since they statistically since are "awarded" custody 80% of the time, but both men and women alienate.

Here is the article:

Stan Hayward FNF Research Officer

What is it?

The Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the systematic denigration by one parent by the other with the intent of alienating the child against the other parent. The purpose of the alienation is usually to gain or retain custody without the involvement of the father. The alienation usually extends to the father's family and friends as well.

Dr. Richard Gardner in his book 'The Parental Alienation Syndrome' states (P.74) "Many of these children proudly state that their decision to reject their fathers is their own. They deny any contribution from their mothers. And the mothers often support this vehemently. In fact, the mothers will often state that they want the child to visit with the father and recognise the importance of such involvement, yet such a mother's every act indicates otherwise. Such children appreciate that, by stating the decision is their own, they assuage mothers guilt and protect her from criticism. Such professions of independent thinking are supported by the mother who will often praise these children for being the kind of people who have minds of their own and are forthright and brave enough to express overtly their opinions. Frequently, such mothers will exhort their children to tell them the truth regarding whether or not they really want to see their fathers. The child will usually appreciate that "the truth" is the profession that they hate the father and do not want to see him ever again. They thereby provide that answer - couched as "the truth" - which will protect them from their mother's anger if they were to state what they really wanted to do, which is to see their fathers. It is important for the reader to appreciate that after a period of programming the child may not know what is the truth any more and come to actually believe that the father deserves the vilification being directed against him. The end point of the brainwashing process has then been achieved.

Please use the link above to read the rest of the article.



Wednesday, February 25, 2009

California Parental Rights Amendment

To create a parental right to rear your children free of government interference and to enjoy that right unless removed by a jury upon a finding of abuse or neglect "beyond a reasonable doubt.

  1. Parental rights existed before "positive law" and come from our Creator
  2. Constitutional rights protected under the US Constitution have never included marriage, family and children. These rights are reserved to the people.
  3. The 4th, 5th and 6th, 14th Amendments rights are routinely violated by the states. This amendment would codify these rights at the state level.
  4. Family courts and other quasi-government agencies violate parent and children's right daily. It is time to stop it !!

It is almost next to impossible to have a federal Parental Rights Amendment passed to amend the US Constitution. For that to happen requires the US Congress to pass a proposed amendment to the states. The state governments would not pass it for one main reason:

It would cut into their budget windfall from the federal government. As long as the federal government subsidizes state interference in family matters, the state governments will continue their atrocities against the people of their state and the children of their state.

However, a state Parental Rights Constitutional Amendment would be extremely passable and almost unchallengeable from state governments and agencies if it were based on federal court decisions and the Supremacy clause of the US Constitution supporting children's and parents rights.

Proposed California Parental Rights Amendment

Section 1. The right of the parents to direct the upbringing of their children, and to the care, companionship and society of their children is a fundamental right.

Section 2. The right of children under age 18 to the care, companionship, and society of their parents is a fundamental right.

Section 3. The state of California, nor any administrative, judicial, executive or legislative act, directive, order or rule or ruling shall infringe upon these rights without demonstrating evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that such a fundamental rights be abridged except in cases of criminal neglect or abuse. No governmental act or acts now in existence can be created to supersede, modify, interpret, or apply to the rights guaranteed by this article.